and each of them had one major city, philadelphia, as you said, the largest city in the nation with all of the 40,000 people. so one of the things that martha, washington, i think, frankly found, not all together to her liking was the fact that she was uprooted from the agricultural, rural, life at mount vernon that she knew and had been born in to. that she had mastered in many ways and relished. and it is only the latest chapter of her sacrifice, which in the own way, i think you can argue matches anything that her husband sacrificed. >> that's true. she didn't want to go to the city. she didn't want to live in the north. she wanted to be home at mount vernon. but she had to be there with her husband to do what her husband wanted to do. she gave it up. but the thing that made her unhappy was the discover once she got there that washington had consulted with john jay and james madison and john adams, they had decided that the president could have no personal life. that any entertainment, any going to visit people, any having people in was in fact a public act. they couldn't just go han